Beware of Emotionally Dishonest NPD Partner’s in Relationships

Emotionally dishonest NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) people can be a real pain in the ass to deal with on many levels especially if it’s a significant other that your involved with in a relationship. It also can be a very touchy and tricky issue to try to tangle with as well and for many reasons. An emotionally dishonest person is typically formed in early childhood development. In most cases the child was mentally/sexually abused, neglected, teased, ignored, yelled at etc… in the process of subjected to such treatment the child begins to slowly detach themselves emotionally and mentally from reality.

This is the beginning phase of creating a defensive coping mechanisms in order to deal with internal and external stresses in everyday life. Once this happens it usually produces a state of arrested development within the child and leaves them emotionally and sometimes mentally stuck at whatever age they chose to shut themselves down at. So as the child grows into adulthood the only thing that you can see developing is the physical body as the mind stays stuck at whatever age it was shut down at. Your partner may be 26 years old chronologically but, only 13 years old mentally and emotionally.

You have to remember that being emotionally dishonesty is a defense mechanism that was developed in early childhood to shield the child from pain and overwhelming stress. I mentioned earlier about detaching from reality and this is where the pain in the ass part comes in to play in a relationship. Nothing is taken serious to them or real to them, they seem to play along with whatever the situation may call for. Life is a movie to them co-starring you and there the star of the show. Again if it’s not real nothing can hurt them and therefore; if it’s not real they’re not hurting you either because, after all they didn’t really mean to hurt you they just wanted to get a reaction out of you to make you mad.

These types of individuals hide behind very negative, paranoid, insecure, and sometimes sinister thoughts of actually hurting you because they have so much pain and anger built up inside of them that it has to be unleashed on someone to tame their inner conflict and pain. They will give off a unpenatrable mask that seems to never get bothered or effected by any slights towards them but don’t be fooled there is a very harsh penalty to pay.

The scary part about this type of individual is that you will never get a truthful answer or indication of how this person really feels to be able to have piece of mind of a supposedly resolved issue. Why? because, it’s a threat to their ego and false self and will make them look weak. Showing true emotions means to show you their true selves and the true self is really damaged, broken, and weak. Being with an emotionally dishonest person with NPD can be detrimental to you sanity, sense of self-worth and your overall health. They have many years of deceptive, sneaky, manipulative tactics for any sane person to even dare try to take on and think that you can change them….it wont happen!